After witnessing so many on the path of self-discovery and transformation, I have noticed there are developmental phases to personal growth that I would like to share with you.
The first phase is Self-Awareness.
Look around and ask yourself and ask: what role am I playing in the creation of my conditions, of my life?
Being aware of one’s responsibility in the creation of ones circumstances is key.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
We begin to learn that the results in our life are not just random.
This is when new tools, teachers and experiences come into our life that help us wake up. We begin to start connecting the dots of our own life.
Positive usually attracts more positive. The energy you send out, returns to you. You listen closer to your intuition, to your inner voice and start noticing what you attract and how.
Plant your seeds: “Wouldn’t it be nice…? ” to be more patient, to move to a different country, to live a more simple lifestyle, to work less and love more?
Just sending out that energy with no attachment to outcome will create a different energetic vibration.
Mantras like:
- Things always work our for me
- Things are always working out for me
- Things will come around
- The situation will work out
- This is happening for a reason. What is the gift of this situation?
can be helpful in the self-awareness process.
We also begin to understand that all of us on this human journey are here to learn, grow and remember who we really are. This is a time full of “ah-ha” moments – some which are exciting and some which are downright surprising.
- The second step is Integration
Once we are aware of our own responsibility in the creation of our circumstances, we can move into the stage Integration.
This is the longest phase because this is when we shift from knowing things to actually changing things. If you feel like you have a lot of information but things in your life are not shifting, welcome to the integration phase…there is some work for you to do.
When in comes to transformation awareness is not enough…you have to let go of your limiting beliefs and change your behaviors.
One of the most powerful ways to heal and break a pattern is when we are experiencing it.
This is a time when we drop our story and upgrade our programming. It is a time when we do the courageous emotional work to heal old issues so they no longer define us. It is a time when we take all the tools we have learned and actually use them, consistently!
Life will be constantly challenge you in this phase to see how you will respond differently and how you alter your perspective and move toward Self-acceptance.
3. Self-Acceptance and Self-Love
Acceptance basically means that we understand that we are all things: “the good, the bad and the ugly”.
Unless you can give voice to the things that don’t work out…you cannot change them.
Understanding and valuing the parts that we have previously seen as insufficient, worthless, worrisome can turn into assets and bring a positive effect into our life.
So it is about accepting who we are and consciously creating boundaries and balance from within.
The Illusion has been broken: You are truly amazing, beautiful and complete. The is nothing wrong about you. You are exactly who you need to be and where you need to be. It is all a learning process. We are all students of life.
In this phase, you are not a new person, in fact, you are more authentically yourself than ever before because limiting beliefs and old stories have been dropped.
Does this mean we are totally evolved and never have anything to work on? NO! We are still human, yet we have integrated so many tools and shifted internally, so when that when “issues” happen, we move into acceptance.
Understanding and living this fully doesn’t magically protect you from any ‘bad things’ happening to us. It is just that you accept the flow as is and nothing ‘bad’ really triggers you anymore. Every challenge becomes an opportunity, every setback is a learning, every loss a message and a gift.
If you knew everything ahead of time, where would be the fun in life, right?
Our souls are in constant evolution, development.Think about it: If there was no contrast, how would you be able to see the light? Appreciate the positive, the amazing things life offers?
We stop fighting with reality and either accept it or change it. We spend more time in the present moment rather than hung up on the past or tripping out about the future.
- Service from the Inside Out
In this phase we are not as focused on working on ourselves or changing our own lives. Instead, we are focused on a bigger vision and changing the lives of others. We feel called to share the love we feel. The truth is that we become light and love.
This is something we know from the inside, it is something we feel.
