Everybody has those voices that make you feel like crap about yourself, sabotage you and telling you like you don’t belong. It’s that opinionated, critical, sabotaging voice in your head – the one who fills your mind with big fat lies like these:
“You’re not pretty, thin, smart, rich (fill in the blank) enough,” “You don’t measure up… you are falling behind…” “Don’t even try. You’ll fail!” Someday thinking: “When you get there you will finally be happy, financially secure, loved, fill in the blank…” “You are unlovable, damaged goods, beyond repair.” “You’re never going to (fill in the blank) get married, get ahead, reach your goals, make enough money….
Negative, nasty, judgmental voices that love to get in your head.
No matter how much money you have, the color of your skin, which culture you are from, especially women have the tendency to beat themselves up for not being what they are supposed to be.
Hey everyone! I hope you are having a great start into the New Year of 2016! It has been a very busy month for me of traveling, learning and growing. I have had incredible conversations, forum meetings, retreats and connected with some amazing teachers and mentors.
After witnessing so many on the path of self-discovery and transformation, I have noticed there are developmental phases to personal growth that I would like to share with you.
The first phase is Self-Awareness.
Look around and ask yourself and ask: what role am I playing in the creation of my conditions, of my life?
Being aware of one’s responsibility in the creation of ones circumstances is key.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
We begin to learn that the results in our life are not just random.
This is when new tools, teachers and experiences come into our life that help us wake up. We begin to start connecting the dots of our own life.
Positive usually attracts more positive. The energy you send out, returns to you. You listen closer to your intuition, to your inner voice and start noticing what you attract and how.
Acceptance basically means that we understand that we are all things: “the good, the bad and the ugly”.
Unless you can give voice to the things that don’t work out…you cannot change them.
Understanding and valuing the parts that we have previously seen as insufficient, worthless, worrisome can turn into assets and bring a positive effect into our life.
So it is about accepting who we are and consciously creating boundaries and balance from within.
The Illusion has been broken: You are truly amazing, beautiful and complete. The is nothing wrong about you. You are exactly who you need to be and where you need to be. It is all a learning process. We are all students of life.
In this phase, you are not a new person, in fact, you are more authentically yourself than ever before because limiting beliefs and old stories have been dropped.
When we consider our existing conditions (physical, financial, mental, behavioral relationship-conditions) as ‘what is’ as fixed and not changeable, it is very hard to create and visualize the ‘what can be’ or potentially ‘what will be’. In fact it is impossible.
What we attract are certain practiced energetic vibration, that than tend to reaffirm the reality we create.
We expect certain things, situations and people to be a certain way, we put them in boxes, we label their “being” and expect certain outcomes and behaviors.
She is so ’emotional’ we say or “I am just not a math person”. I will never succeed or have a better financial situation. I am never lucky.
And when they do happen in reality, we say: “see, I told you, this is just another example.” What we don’t see is everything’s else that is happening at the same time while we focus on ‘what is’.